Charles frames his home-away-from-home
We've all witnessed the pride on a parent's face as they talk about their child, but equally as special – although sometimes hard to catch! - is the very same pride a child projects when speaking about a parent. For Charles Amuzie, admiration for his dad comes easy. Having emigrated to the United States from Nigeria with very little, Charles' parents worked hard to build a great life for their four children. On a steamy summer day, we got together and chatted with Charles and his Dad (isn't the resemblance uncanny?!) as Charles gave his dad a Father's Day gift (a little early) and told us about what makes their relationship so special.
Tell us about your dad. How would you describe him? My dad is one of the strongest, most sensitive and intelligent people I've ever met. He and my mom uprooted themselves and moved half a world away from home when they were my age to start a new life for themselves and their then-infant daughter. It's hard to conceive of doing something quite that brave, and not only did they do it, but it was an extraordinary success. They managed to raise four kids and send them all to college, all while getting advanced degrees themselves.
What quality about him do you admire most? My favorite thing about my dad is how self-possessed he is. He is really comfortable with who he is, what he likes, and what he believes, and I admire that.
What is the most important thing you've learned from him? I've learned so much from ad over the years, but I'd have to say the most important thing is to just be inquisitive. Growing up, I was really intellectually curious -- always exploring why things are the way they are -- and he encouraged that, even when my thoughts conflicted with his.
What parts of your dad do you see in yourself? I think I get a lot of my perseverance from my dad. He set a great example for me in that way.
Can you tell us a little bit about the photo you framed? Where was it taken? What makes it special? The photo was taken on our last family trip to Nigeria. He has always felt like Nigeria is home, and it was wonderful to share that with him. It's special for me because I got to meet a lot of people who were important to him growing up, and got a deeper understanding of who he is.
"Even though dad only lives an hour away, sometimes it's hard to say "I love you" as much as I should."
What made you want to give this to your dad for Father's Day? The saying "a picture is worth a thousand words" is really true, and even though dad only lives an hour away, sometimes it's hard to say "I love you" as much as I should. We get caught up in the minutiae of everyday life and lose sight of what's important. Having the photo can be a tangible reminder to cherish the people you really care about, even when they're not around.
"Even though the photo just captures a moment, there's something simple and timeless about it."
How do you feel when you look at the frame? Even though the photo just captures a moment, there's something simple and timeless about it. I couldn't think of a better way to reflect my relationship with my dad.
What photo do you have that captures your relationship with the dad in your life perfectly?